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Quality Of The Light

Quality Of The Light

Midnight Has Bled

Midnight has bled, on your kisses so red.
These petals so light, are transformed by the night.

“It seems an insult to the night to speak of purpose and intent, when this common…

“It seems an insult to the night to speak of purpose and intent, when this common moment is so brimming full of blessed design tranquility. All things follow their course.”

― Anne Rice, The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty

Love how we are different, love how we are the same

I shared this once before but I’ve changed the picture and left out my additional text. My previous post brought this to mind.

These are words to live by, in my opinion. This is my truth. This is how I try to behave and how I wish to be treated.

Excerpted from Please Understand Me II
Copyright © 1998  by David Keirsey

If I do not want what you want, please try not to tell me that my want is wrong.

Or if I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.

Or if my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, try not to ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.

Or yet if I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.

I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me.
That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.

I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend, or your colleague.

If you will allow me any of my own wants, or emotions, or beliefs, or actions, then you open yourself, so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right — for me.

To put up with me is the first step to understanding me.

Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness.

And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and, far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.”

This article spoke to me quite directly as it explains how I feel and why it’s…

This article spoke to me quite directly as it explains how I feel and why it’s hard for me to open up. The following is a quote from the article.” But, when people “hold space” or commiserate or pray or simply say, “I see and hear you,” those very people are often sought out for advice, when the time is right. In my personal life, when people have simply accepted me, I find that I can give MYSELF advice. I’ve found internal wisdom that I had no idea was there.”

I need that and it seems to be very hard to come by. Simple acceptance, not advice or how to fix myself. I can google plenty of self help articles or buy books on the subject, if I’m so inclined.

I can see why people sometimes disallow comments in certain situations because instead of just offering their acceptance, some people try to offer advice on how they think you ( people in general ) are supposed to be. That’s not love and support, that’s judgment in many cases. Of course there are people who are genuine and well meaning too but the effect is still the same. You feel judged and I personally don’t care for that feeling so in most cases I stay silent because I am unwilling to open myself up to that. If I want your advice, I’ll ask for it.

It sucks, it shouldn’t be that way. ” I get where your coming from even if I don’t feel that same way ” ” I see you and hear you” instead of you should do something this way or you should think that way  ,you should  lose weight, gain weight, eat organic, be more positive, be more cynical, be something other than how you are, how you were made.

It comes down to someone(s) invalidating your feelings because they feel they are wrong. Don’t try to fix someone else unless they ask, love them as they are, flaws and all.

* To be clear I’m not proclaiming to be perfect in this regard, but I honestly try and do everything I can to be aware of what I say to someone. Sometimes you can’t help but judge, but you can choose to keep your thoughts to yourself or expressing it in a safe space out of consideration.

When “fixing” leaves everyone broken (with update) | FemCentral
We are only experts about our own lives. Do not offer advice.

What mat? No Mat?

So, down the road from me I have this store that everyone in the vicinity frequents and being one of those people I have come to know the owner a litte bit.

I asked him if it was alright to hang a picture in his store in the hopes ( dear God please someone buy the damn thing ) that someone will buy it. I live along a lake as do most of the people in my small area ( we live on a little peninsula ) and this is one of the most powerful sunsets I’ve had the pleasure of imaging. These folks love themselves some lake, so I figured it was a natural fit.

I got myself a frame ( 11 x 14 I believe ) to put this sucker in but now I’m faced with the decision of matting. To tell you the truth I don’t really like matting. Perhaps I’m a simpleton but I prefer the way a picture looks sans mat. I get that it’s not very “professional” even though I hate the damned things and it adds yet more cost to this little project.

From what I can suss out I need to have a mat that’s 11×14 with an 8×10 window. Is that proper? I have some snobby ass photogs around here so I don’t want it to be all jacked up. Thinking of one of these types ( I even ran into a guys wife who was snobby on his behalf LOL) going in the store all Judgy McJudge pants and talking smack riles me right up. So this has to be decent. Cheap frame is one thing, bad mat format is another ( right? ).

I’m already stuck with a very expensive ( an umatted)  custom frame I have NO IDEA WHAT TO DO WITH. For this very same purpose ! I’m in the hole in a big way and I don’t want to be carting this thing home like I did my glorious 11×17  frame and print.

Not Quite Bright

Chroma key green bright to be precise. I can’t afford a green screen so my next choice is green poster board from walmart. I don’t have a way to walmart at the moment so I thought I’d improvise.

I had this light bulb moment ( it was a dim epiphany but it still counts ) that I’ll just find the right color value for green make a huge image and put it on the TV ! I was doing a little “I’m so clever dance” because it even solves the problem of being evenly lit. Well, for photos –in a pinch it’ll do, maybe.

I’m looking to do this with video though and my happy dance turned into a slumpy slump when I realized I had forgotten about the dreaded screen flicker . So yeah – that’s not going to work. The funniest part is that when I tried to import it into a couple video programs all I got was ( guess what?) a green screen. Not the green I was looking for either lol

Yes, it is very bright!

First J-Wildfire fractal

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"Midway in the journey of our life • I came to myself in a dark wood • for the straight way was lost" - Dante's Inferno